Over the past few months a lot has changed between both myself and my friends. For the first time, there was a week where all of us had a person that we all had feelings for and let me just say things got super overwhelming! There was even a day where one of my best friends and I both had dates at the same time and she called me for advice and I literally told her to wing it because I was too busy dealing with my own situation.
Regardless of this, my friends are my family. I love them to the moon and back, and recently I’ve had to think about what would happen if my best friend(s) were in relationships, because its 200% going to happen one day soon if it hasn’t already.
(Disclaimer: I have more than one of you in mind for this post)
Trust/Honesty/Respect/Give & Take: These ones are obvious and that is why they come first. Trust until given a reason not to, everyone deserves a clean slate at the beginning right? Be honest, don’t try to hide who you are. Respect. We are all people with the capability to feel the same things. Please treat her with respect because I know she will try to do this for you too. Relationships are alllll about give and take. If you haven’t seen the feminism rant from The Cosby Show going around, check this out!
Be Each Other’s Friend: Honestly I don’t think any of my best friends are the type to date someone without being at least their friend if not their best friend. Be silly around each other! Make each other laugh! Don’t just go on dates and make everything about sex.
Accept Her Family For Whatever It Is: Her family isn’t the Lizzie McGuire family. Maybe her parents aren’t together, or she has half siblings, or things are complicated and weird. Accept whatever her situation is with her family and support her in it, that’s all she’s really going to ask of you.
Accept Her Past: She was a person for about 20 years before you came along.
Share Things With Her: Be as open as you can be, let her in. I know this is scary, and it will be for her too but learning about each other is a very exciting time. Let her know the little things; the way you take your coffee, or how you learned to ride a bike.
Try To Remember Things She Tells You: Obviously you shouldn’t catalogue everything that comes out of her mouth, but pay attention to what she says. She shouldn’t have to tell you the same thing six times.
Make Her Listen To Taylor Swift (In A Good Way): I know my best friends; they’re incredibly sappy people (no offence) AND when they like someone their playlist changes from girl anthems to some variation of cute, romantic music. For example, Taylor Swift, or Ed Sheeran. Let me be the first to say, that if they’re listening to something like this, you’re doing something right.
Introduce Her As Your Girlfriend (If She’s You’re Girlfriend): This is something that one of my best friends especially hates if a guy doesn’t do and I can understand why. She shouldn’t have to question the way you feel about her around other people. Be proud that she’s yours, show her off a little and it’ll go along way.
Make Her Feel Special: (I wish I could extra bold this.)
Don’t Do Something Stupid AND Expect To Get Away With It: This one’s pretty self explanatory, but if she doesn’t directly find out on her own, someone will! Like I said before, HONESTY.
Break Up With Dignity: Obviously I don’t want you to break up with her, especially if life is going smoothly and all is well. BUT. If you were to go about breaking up with her, do it in the most humane and kind way possible. DO NOT break up with her in a text message, or on Skype. Don’t set a break up date for the future and tell her like 3 weeks in advance, this isn’t quitting a job.
This probably all sounds harsh and intimidating and thats totally not how I mean it to sound. At the end of the day, I just want my best friends to be happy, and if you’re a person who makes them happy then I will like and appreciate your existence.
Take Care and Keep Smiling ❤
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